He makes it sound as though you are saying something wrong in sharing your concerns.
Having a child out of wedlock is pretty much the number one thing you can do to fuck up your life. Never, ever assume a divorced woman is some innocent blushing maid cruelly abused by some terrible man. What kind of insecurities plague a woman who thinks getting married to a drug addict is good idea?Since he has the kids I assume you will be moving in with him, his house, his family and his established life style.You didn't mention what changes you suggested so I cannot give any input on that but the truth is if you had kids and he was moving in with you you would expect him not to try and change too much But you both should realize that compromises will need to be made but some things are more likely to remain the same in regards to how he raises his children and scheduling, however my experience is after time you can make changes if you dont rush When one has children, stability is the utmost priority.Updated to add: The use of the term ‘single mother’ is not exactly accurate. If you screw up and get pregnant, don’t screw up even more and bring an innocent child along with you! Divorced moms who escaped abusive marriages with drug/sex/gambling/whatever addicts should not get a free pass from you, either.If you are a mother and you are collecting child support, you are not a single mother. The rest of us who have to LIVE with your fucked up, emotionally scarred children will PAY you to have a fucking abortion. Second, single mothers are clearly really, really shitty at making life decisions. You both put each other’s happiness above your own. Now divorced mothers, who are a breed of single mothers, MIGHT be a little different, but whenever you approach one, sing this little song in your head: it takes two to tango. Even if it’s TRUE that the husband was a colossal fuck-up, you need to ask yourself what kind of imperceptive moron couldn’t spot that?